I have a hard time with believing in all this “new age” crap such as the so called “law of attraction” , where you just think of something really hard and magically, psychically, astrally, universally or however it’s supposed happen, will automatically come to you. The truth is, you can’t force someone to like you, you’re not the Emperor of the World and even if you were, there will always be some people who will despise you, because there is no such thing as a “perfect” person who is loved by everyone, nor is there a person who is hated by everyone.
Some will like you. Maybe this chick likes me because I’m Asian, maybe she likes me because I have black hair and a medium build. Maybe she likes me for my sarcastic and morbid sense of humor. Maybe she believes I’m a very handsome fellow or just plain charming. I don’t know. If I like her and she likes me, then there should not be a problem! The rules of attraction follow a simple, logical formula and you may not always get what you want, but as long as you keep meeting and dating more people, the odds are, one of them will like you.
Some won’t like you. Nobody is perfect and even the most fawned after celebrities have as many haters as much as they have lovers. Take Brad Pitt for example, while many women would say that he’s ugly (I have no idea why, maybe it’s the hair). Now, going back to me, some women may not like me because of the fact that I’m Asian, but that’s not going to stop me from asking her out. Others may think I’m too short, too skinny, too fat, too ugly, I don’t know, the point is, I do care, but I’m not going to dwell on it, so I might as well just say I don’t care.
If not, then who cares? I’ve developed the philosophy that if she doesn’t like me, then she doesn’t like me. I may want a reason, but I probably don’t really need a reason. I’m not going to waste my time with someone who is not interested in me, going to lead me on or has no interest whatsoever. Maybe I’m the problem or maybe the problem is her. The point is, you can’t let rejection get the best of you, so just say f*ck it and go on to the next prospect.
There’s someone out there. There are over 6 billion people in the world and the internet helps bring us together. Don’t tell me there is no one out there for you because there is. Take the Boston Bomber and the Colorado shooters for example; most people will agree that they are ugly ass douche bags, but they seem to have a cult following of women online who would marry them. I mean seriously! Even these guys have women that find them attractive, so anything is possible.
Keep trying! Dating is a numbers game and you might go through many potential candidates before you actually find the right person for you. Just keep on meeting new people, keep on going out on dates, keep on asking out who you want to ask out and don’t give a damn about what they say!